Jamelia’s Comments on Plus Size Clothing and What It’s Like Being Overweight
So, another celebrity has decided to make a name for herself by being unkind. There’s a bit of a trend for it at the moment. But I shall refrain from mentioning another celebrity’s name that might have a K and a H in it.
On Loose Women Jamelia stated that she didn’t believe that Plus Size clothing should be available on the high street:
“I think everyone should have access to lovely clothes, BUT I do not think it’s right to facilitate people living an unhealthy lifestyle.
“I don’t believe stores should stock clothes below or above a certain weight.
“They should be made to feel uncomfortable when they go in and can’t find a size.” *
Today’s blog post was going to be a different blog post. But it will be going up tomorrow instead as I really feel quite strongly about this. In fairness Jamelia is not just commenting on overweight people, she is commenting on underweight people too.
We do have an obesity epidemic in this country. It is a well known fact and problem. It is also a battle I know all too well. I hold my hands up and say I am overweight. I hate the ‘F’ word, but yes fat. Do I want to be this way? No. I hate it. It is an on-going battle.
Regular readers of my blog will know that I have overcome many weight battles and that I am now a Cambridge Weight Consultant helping others loose weight. That I am also back on a dieting journey after the birth of my daughter (see Weigh, Lose or Stay #1). I know what it’s like to be fat, I know what it’s like to be slim. I know what it’s like to constantly battle your weight, to loathe the scales and the clothes that seem to be shrinking, but of course aren’t. If I was truly honest and opened up about this I would say that being overweight is painful. For me, emotionally painful. I don’t plan to ever give up battling.
We all know it is unhealthy to be overweight. But there are so many reasons that people are. Often as I have said painful reasons, whether physical, medical or deep emotional ones. How can shaming and ostracising people ever be the way? I would go as far to say that most overweight people if they were truly honest want to lose weight. It doesn’t mean they’re always able. In some instances people have to find peace with who and what they are, and I salute them for that. Simply because it’s not something I have ever truly managed.
I’m not here endorsing obesity, I help people lose weight remember? But there are some overweight people who work out more regularly, or eat a better diet than slim people. Who are in fact healthier. Not everything is ever as it seems.
‘Celebrities’ all too often wade in with their opinions on matters without any comprehension of what they’re talking about and also how their words might affect people. Often vulnerable people and sensitive subjects. I would go so far to say I can’t imagine Jamelia has ever been overweight, I could be wrong. But I doubt it. Because if she had I would think she would have more compassion.
As I noted earlier, Jamelia also mentioned underweight people too. While I have no experience of ever being underweight, there are very deep emotional issues there too. Eating disorders is an obvious one, perhaps someone is naturally very slim, but there is often big problems also.
I am honestly shocked that anyone would think it is a good thing to push people in society with weight issues – whatever the reason – out of the mainstream. To make them feel more ashamed, more alone and more shameful. What happened to kindness and understanding or empathy?
Jamelia has since gone on to issue an apology:
“I didn’t make it clear that I was talking about extremes, I was talking about above size 20 and below size six, those sizes being available,” she said.
“Knowing that I offended people really upset me.
“Knowing that I made people question themselves and their choices, it really did upset me. All I can do is apologise for that.
“I do stand by what I said. I’m a real woman with real opinions. I get paid to voice my opinions.
“It’s been absolutely awful but this is my job. I believe we are all entitled to our opinion.” **
Hmm so if people are over a size 20 or below a size 6, it’s OK to be mean to them then? She’s right of course, she is entitled to her opinions. We all are. But that does mean that she should be ready to accept the backlash that comes with those opinions.
I for one am getting a bit fed up of C list celebrities thinking that it’s OK to be unkind for the sake of a bit of news column coverage. I’m of course not only referring to Jamelia, there have been a few news stories lately of this nature. Perhaps when they have a bit more understanding and education about the issues they are commenting on, they should get a bit more air time. Perhaps… Or perhaps we should all ignore them they will disappear and find another more fitting career.