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Have you ever felt like sleep is a luxury you simply can’t afford? You finally get the children to bed, tackle the never-ending to-do list, and just as you close your eyes—someone needs water, a different blanket, or a deep discussion about dinosaurs. Mums everywhere know this struggle.
Rest is often the first thing sacrificed, yet nearly half of British women don’t get enough sleep. The result? Increased risk of heart disease, anxiety, and burnout. Meanwhile, social media glorifies being constantly busy, making rest seem like a weakness.
But here’s the truth: prioritising rest isn’t selfish—it’s essential. A well-rested mum is happier, more patient, and more present. In this blog, we’ll share practical ways to reclaim rest, break free from exhaustion, and finally feel human again.
Why Mums Struggle to Get Enough Rest
Mums are expected to juggle everything—work, parenting, housework, and socialising—leaving little time for rest. The pressure to always be “on” makes sleep feel like an afterthought.
Social media only adds to the guilt. Scrolling through endless images of “perfect” mums running businesses, meal-prepping, and managing it all makes rest seem like a failure.
Even when mums try to prioritise sleep, real-life challenges get in the way. Unpredictable child routines, late-night work emails, and an endless mental checklist make true relaxation feel impossible.
This is where small changes can make a big difference. Creating a bedroom environment that promotes rest is a game-changer. A comfortable sleeping space can improve sleep quality, helping mums feel more refreshed, even if they don’t get a full eight hours. For example, investing in a high-quality hybrid mattress can provide both comfort and support, reducing body aches and making those precious sleep hours count. Sleep isn’t just about duration—it’s about quality.
Setting Boundaries and Changing Habits
One of the biggest obstacles to rest is guilt. Many mums believe they must always be available, whether for their children, partners, or work. But the truth is, boundaries aren’t just healthy—they’re necessary.
Start by setting a clear bedtime for yourself, just like you do for the children. Treat it as non-negotiable. It’s easy to think, “I’ll just finish one more thing,” but that one thing turns into five, and suddenly, it’s midnight. Instead, create a nightly routine that signals to your body that it’s time to unwind. Dim the lights, put away screens, and engage in a calming activity—reading, stretching, or even a quick skincare routine.
Another way to reclaim rest is by delegating tasks. Mums often take on too much because it feels easier than asking for help. But children can learn to tidy their toys, and partners can take on more responsibilities. Not every meal needs to be homemade, and not every laundry pile needs to be folded at 11 p.m.
Then there’s the issue of technology. Phones and tablets keep our brains wired, making it harder to wind down. The blue light from screens suppresses melatonin, the hormone that helps us sleep. Try setting a rule—no screens an hour before bed. If that feels impossible, at least switch to night mode and dim the brightness.
Small Changes, Big Impact
The good news? Prioritising rest doesn’t require a dramatic lifestyle overhaul. Small, intentional shifts can make a huge difference in how well you sleep and how rested you feel each day.
Reevaluate Your Sleep Space
Your bedroom should be a sanctuary, not just another chaotic space filled with laundry piles and forgotten to-do lists. A cool, dark, and comfortable room helps signal to your body that it’s time to rest. Invest in blackout curtains to block out unwanted light and consider using a white noise machine if outside sounds tend to wake you. Make sure your bed provides the support your body needs—an unsupportive mattress or flat pillows could be contributing to aches and discomfort. Soft, breathable bedding also plays a role in how well you sleep, helping to regulate body temperature and prevent overheating. A small change, like switching to a better pillow or adjusting your room temperature, can make a world of difference.
Nap When Possible
It’s easy to dismiss napping as something only children get to enjoy, but a short rest in the afternoon can work wonders for your energy and focus. Even a 20-minute nap can recharge your brain, improve memory, and help you power through the rest of the day without relying on endless cups of coffee. If you have young children, try resting while they nap instead of squeezing in more chores. And if napping during the day isn’t realistic, even closing your eyes for a few minutes and practicing deep breathing can help you reset.
Say No More Often
Many mums struggle with setting boundaries, saying yes to every request out of obligation or guilt. But constantly overcommitting leads to exhaustion, resentment, and burnout. Protecting your time means recognising that you can’t—and shouldn’t—do everything. It’s okay to decline an invitation, delegate tasks, or postpone things that aren’t urgent. Saying no doesn’t make you a bad parent, friend, or employee; it makes you a person who values their own well-being. The more you prioritise your needs, the better you’ll be for everyone around you.
Let Go of Guilt
One of the biggest barriers to prioritising rest is the belief that you have to “earn” it. Many mums feel guilty for taking time to themselves, as if resting means they aren’t doing enough. But rest isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity. Sleep deprivation doesn’t make you more productive; it makes you more exhausted, less patient, and more prone to stress. Letting go of guilt means recognising that taking care of yourself allows you to take better care of those you love. A well-rested mum is not only healthier but also more present, more engaged, and more capable of enjoying life’s small moments.
All in all, the world won’t slow down, but you can choose to. By making small adjustments, you can reclaim the rest you deserve. Whether it’s improving your sleep environment, setting boundaries, or simply giving yourself permission to rest, every small step adds up. Rest isn’t selfish—it’s the foundation for a happier, healthier, and more balanced life.